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Sunday, March 15, 2015

LIFE: STILL CHANGING AND REARRANGING


Happy Sunday, Everyone! 

Want to check in with each of you and do a little writing. 
It, along with music and long, authentic, raw, deep, unedited and real conversation, though only ever shared with a select few, act as therapy for me.  

Things in my life are still changing and rearranging. 


As I said in my Life: The Importance Of Transparency While Finding Your Own Direction post, which the incredible writer Melissa Blake linked to as "wise words on the future" on her inspiring So About What I Said... blog, it's about the steps you take. 

No matter how small of a step you take, making it is key in moving forward and finding a better direction. Ultimately, who knows where it may lead.  Good or bad, it is bound to teach you something, too.

Each day, I think I'm working towards finding my true purpose.  As I've said before, I want to make a difference in this world and help others or it simply isn't worth it to me.  


I realize this might sound like a pageant answer, as I expressed to someone yesterday over brunch, but it is honestly how I feel and what makes me genuinely happy in this world, along with the ability to smile.


Image and layout by Liesl Ehardt using quote from here.

I truly believe we are each here for a reason.  Though, I'm not sure we ever know specifically what that reason is.  Perhaps, it's one of those "when you know, you know" concepts in life.  

That said, I'll admit that there have been times when I thought "I knew," be it in a relationship, career, location, etc., only to realize I actually didn't. Sadly, the more often this happens, the more you question, and less you trust, yourself and your feelings.

All this said, age has helped me gain a better sense of self and what it is I want in life.  In this past year, specifically, I have learned A LOT about myself, including patterns I repeat, and I am grateful for that knowledge and the strength it brings.

Hardest part in better understanding transparency, myself and what I truly want, is realizing that each is not easily gained, but it's said that "nothing worth having in life comes easy." 

Even harder is knowing that the thing I wish for most might never happen for me.  It's not in my hands, and I'm working on accepting that..."what will be, will be."  Though it's hard not to see that time, in some respects, is running out.  Reality is reality and with it comes some anxiety and sleepless nights.

At the end of the day, I won't settle, I no longer make definitive plans or put too much of a timeline on things.  I'm continuing to live in the moment, as best as possible, for quality of life and time with those who mean the most to me while I still have it. 

Seeing a number of people I know lose loved ones over the past few months enforces the importance of the above.  People seem to be passing suddenly and unexpectedly, and many at a very young age, which brings up a lot of the past for me, saddens my heart and reminds me to live fully for today.

That said, I also realize that through the uncertainty I might be feeling in life, I am still so incredibly lucky, and for that I am so, so thankful!  Don't waste the time you do have, take chances and risks, no matter how scary, which is something I need to remember.

Ultimately, if it makes you happy now, in this moment, enjoy it and don't try to put a label on it or place it into the perfect box tied up with a bow.  The unplanned, sometimes messy moments, are what give things character and a unique beauty..."trust the process."

Big hugs to everyone and always remember this is YOUR life and you are here to do something only you can...now, go out there and do it while continuing to discover your true self!  

Thursday, March 12, 2015

Monday, March 9, 2015

GIVEAWAY: WIN A LIVE CIVIL BY NEW ERA & KAREN CIVIL FEDORA


Happy Monday, Blogland!

I think it is about time for another Giveaway!

Live Civil and I have teamed up to give a lucky Fabulous Fashions 4 Sensible Style reader one of their new 'Thinking Cap' Fedoras by New Era and Karen Civil.  It will be perfect paired with an easy breezy look this spring and summer.

I love how each offers words for inspiration on the inside.  Plus, 50% of the proceeds go towards the building of a Live Civil Playground in Haiti.  Therefore, when you purchase one, you are actually helping others in need at the same time and that is music to my ears!

New Era has store locations here in New York City, as well as in Los Angeles and Miami.  However, theirLive Civil items can be purchased via their Online Store, along with other fun goodies and gifts.

This giveaway is open to everyone and will remain open for 2 weeks, through March 23rd.  Simply enter below, there are multiple ways to enter, which mean multiple chances to win.  Good Luck!!!
Layout by Liesl Ehardt using images from Live Civil.

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Wednesday, March 4, 2015

LIFE: SWEET PINK 'SUGAR AND PLUMM' BIRTHDAY BRUNCH AND TRUE FRIENDSHIP


Happy Wednesday, Everyone!

Wanted to check-in and see how everyone in blogland is doing.  

I'm still sorting through life, and figuring out what my next steps will be.  Thankfully, I'm not doing this alone, but with the guidance and support of my incredible family and close friends.

I try my best to always look on the bright side, sometimes to a fault or to the annoyance of those around me, but it is a part of who I am.  That said, sometimes the clouds roll in, which makes seeing the sunshine I always look for a little harder, but yet, I know it is there.  

On Saturday, a glimmer of light came through while celebrating one of my best friend's birthdays over a glamorous brunch uptown at Sugar and Plumm with a very fitting pink and sparkle-tastic dress code.  

She and I have been friends since childhood, and she truly knows how to live life to the fullest while spreading happiness and positivity everywhere she goes.  She is a true inspiration and the world is, without a doubt, a brighter and better place because she is in it.
The best part is that she, and our circle of friends, have known each other since youth and are all still great friends today, which means we all get to see each other, catchup and celebrate together.  It is so special to have these types of bonds and relationships that last a lifetime.

Below are some of the pictures from her sweet pink birthday celebration!  I'll be back as soon as I can and hope you are all having a Wonderful Week so far!

Saturday, February 21, 2015

LIFE: THE IMPORTANCE OF TRANSPARENCY WHILE FINDING YOUR OWN DIRECTION

Image layout created by Liesl Ehardt using image found here.

Dear Bogland,

I'm not fully sure where to begin.

I am uncertain about so many things in my life.  Especially, where my future is going.  Something I think so many of us face in life, and for some, like myself, it happens more than once.

I have been away from this blog, something that once filled me with such happiness.  Mostly due to lack of time, but also a lack of passion and inspiration.

That said, writing is therapy for me.  I want to ignite that spark within, once again.  Therefore, I believe this blog will be taking a turn in a new direction, as will I, over the next few weeks and even months.

Facing life in your mid-thirties, and not being where you saw yourself as a child, on any front, is tough. 

That said, it is not an end.  Even if it may feel like it at times, which is just the honest truth.  I want to try my best to stay positive and see it as a new, wide open, beginning.

I know what I DO want, and where I am now is NOT it.  

I believe, in my heart of hearts, that it is time to move out of the big cities.  My life has been full of them, from London to Abu Dhabi to Los Angeles and New York City.  

Above all else, I seek true love.  A home and happy, comfortable life being the cherry on top.  

I don't need a lot of money.  Just to be in a place where I can live smartly, less month to month, and be able to travel, my other love, and to spent time with family and dear friends, whom I live for these days. 

I don't know that kids are in my future, partially due to age, though I love and relate to them more than anything.  That said, adoption has been something I've been open to since I was a little girl, and there are plenty of children who need a happy, safe home. 

Ultimately, I want to be in a place where I can be doing something that is truly helping others and making a difference in this world or, to me, it is not worth it.  It's always easier, and more fulfilling, doing that while sharing it with someone special, but not all of us get that.  

If I said I knew where I was going, I'd be lying to each of you, which I won't do.  

Something I learned over the past few months, at a job that I fell into, surrounded by some of the greatest people I've ever known, was the importance of transparency.

So, this is me.  Transparent, open and honest with where I am now, in this moment.  I'm not happy and know a change needs to be made, though I don't know what that is.

If it weren't for my incredible family, and handful of close friends, I would be completely lost.  They are the greatest gift I have ever been given, and I am so thankful for each of them.

I was recently called "irreplaceable" and told I have "a smile, kindness and ora that lights up this world and helps others" by some co-workers, and that I "inspire people" by a NYC construction worker, whom I've come in contact with over the past few months, all in the same day.

In the end, I want to continue to be these things, and offer these things, to those around me.  Not help myself, but help others and continue to smile on a daily basis.  

Lately, I've been doing so, despite feeling lost and unhappy inside, because life is short, and I believe there is no need to bring those around you down simply because you are sad or having a bad day.  My hope is to, one day, be able to do the above while also feeling truly happy and content myself.

Perhaps "the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life," and all you have to do is simply take it.  Here's to doing just that...where it leads is yet to be seen.  

Finally, to each of you, my readers, and bogland friends, thanks for sticking by me and for the support you have shown from all over the world.  All of you mean more to me than you know, and I hope to never let you down.  

Hopefully, you join me for my next chapter, and, together, we see where it leads.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

LIFE: 2015 NEW YORK CITY BLIZZARD FUN IN TIMES SQUARE


Happy Tuesday, Bogland!

Needless to say, life has been quite hectic lately as we prepare for The Knickerbocker, a legendary New York City landmark, to be reborn at the crossroads of the world.  It will open its doors for the first time since John Jacob Astor opened it in 1906 and having closed in 1921 after his death on the Titanic. 

In other news, as some of you may have seen, a blizzard swept over the Northeast coast Monday evening well into today, which made for an early dismissal from work at noon on Monday and snow day off today.

Prior to them shutting down NYC transportation and putting the mandatory curfew into effect, Marvelous Merri, a co-worker who has quickly become a forever friend, and I took to Times Square and ran around like giddy children.  

There was no shortage of laughing, dancing, singing, goofiness and all around good times.  Above all else, it is hard to put into words how nice it was to leave life at the door, so to speak, and simply forget responsibilities, troubles, anxieties and more for a bit.

Heading to bed early tonight, as it is back to business and real life tomorrow.  Hope all of you on the east coast survived the storm.  I'd love to hear your stories and see your pictures in the comments below.

I'll try to be back here more frequently as soon as I can.  Thank you in advance for your patience and sticking with me over the years.  Big hugs!
All images and video by Liesl Ehardt and my Instagram.

Sunday, January 18, 2015

LIFE: JUST PUTTING THOUGHTS TO PAPER OR TEXT FOR A MOMENT


Happy Sunday, Bogland!

We've been in training as we prepare to open the first luxury hotel in Times Square with an address at the crossroads of the world!  Needless to say, I have had little time to do anything but work and sleep.

During this training, we have had different key speakers come in to train and talk to us.  During which, I was reminded of the importance of putting thoughts to paper, or text as it may be in bogland.

On Saturday, I came across the below quote and it really hit me.
(image altered by Liesl Ehardt)

Whenever life appears to be going well on all fronts, something will, undoubtably, come into play that will knock you down on one of those fronts.

I'll never fully understand this, but I will continue to trust the journey.  Believing that things unfold as they should, and happen in order to keep us working towards something better and staying appreciative of the good while we have it.

Life on the work front is truly incredible, and I am so thankful each and every day.  When you find yourself surrounded by co-workers whom you consider family, you know you have found something rare and special.  

However, for me, it is hard to fully enjoy it when you have no one with whom to share it, outside of my wonderful family.  The older you get, and I'm far older than people ever realize, the harder is to accept.  Especially, when you believe you are a good person with a lot to offer.  At the end of the day, it isn't up to you, it is up to life and where it guides you.

It's no secret that life did not unfold as I thought it would, and I was more on track when I was younger than I am now as an adult, which seems slightly backwards.  However, as the quote above expresses, even if you are broken, you can still shine, and I intend to do just that.

For me, it is about living a life for which you can be proud, helping others, being kind, staying positive, smiling and finding happiness in the small things.  Brightening someone else's world more than your own.  
Does this mean you will always receive good in return?  No.  That is just a part of life.  You win some and you lose some.  Bad things happen to good people, just as good things happen to not so good people.  That is a part of life.

That said, it won't stop me from smiling on a daily basis, I would truly die without one.  Making others smile is what makes me genuinely happy, and maybe, just maybe, I'll find someone who will fully appreciate me for me one day...only time will tell, and for now, I've put looking on hold indefinitely.

I think we all wish we could go back and unmeet certain people.  Or wonder why they crossed our paths, but we have to remember that they did so for "a blessing or a lesson...a reason, a season or a lifetime," and we just never know which one it may be.

To me it is just a part of life, nothing more and nothing less.  I will continue to be the best person I can be, and those who chose to be a part of it can stay and those who don't can leave.  

We only have today with no guarantee of tomorrow.  So, live in the now and enjoy each moment as best as you can without trying to figure it all out.

Life is full of ups and downs, it's all part of the adventure or enigma as it apprears to be to me.

by Liesl Ehardt